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Working from home advice: Is it really this hard?

4/14/2020

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The Coronavirus means many of us parents are working from home whilst also looking after our children, and as a result there’s been an overwhelming number of articles giving advice on how best to handle this.

They make it sound so easy, which might leave us thinking, ‘here’s my chance to embrace the flexible working revolution and get a taste of ‘having it all’.

Because working remotely is supposed to give us the freedom to spend more time with our families, right?

Well, yes, it does. But not under these circumstances.
 
This is not what flexible working is really like

As a freelancer, I’ve been working from home for three years, so I’m well practiced in the delicate act of balancing my career with my family.

I, for one, feel the ‘Top Tips for Working from Home’ blogs are all well and good, but they fall short of being helpful.

They offer guidance based on the misconception that you’re simply moving your desk from your office to your spare room.

In reality, you’re dealing with the added diversions of being responsible for your offspring too.

Remote working has been proven time and again to increase productivity, by making a worker more efficient with their time, but I think it’s unreasonable to expect that to be the case now.

Simon Gregory from GPS Return  has written an excellent blog about how companies mustn’t use this time to judge how successful a flexible working policy will be for them.

My concern extends to the employees, I don’t want anyone to come out of lockdown and think: ‘Meh, I tried that working from home thing and it really wasn’t for me.’

Because things are tough now, we’re living in unprecedented times (there’s a phrase you hadn’t heard for at least five minutes), and what you are going through every day is not indicative of how great flexible working really can be.
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Working from home under quarantine

I’ll talk you through a typical day in isolation for the Fieldhouse-Downes family, which consists of myself (a freelance writer), Luke (a teacher), Harry (aged 3) and James (aged 7 months):
  • We wake up at some ungodly hour when James decides it is play time – no lie-ins for us!
  • Breakfast follows soon after, including lengthy debates with the toddler over what he wants to eat (no, Harry, biscuits are not a suitable start to the day).
  • Myself or my other half will take ourselves off to the study for the four hours that we have designated for work (we then swap over in the afternoon).
  • When it is my turn, I get my head down for approximately 9 whole minutes before Harry walks in, sits on my lap, empties the bottom shelf of the bookcase, reads me a story and then asks for a snack.
  • I get up and make the snack, before heading back to my laptop.
  • 17 minutes later, the baby is crying inconsolably and, although I know Luke is more than capable of calming him, I can’t concentrate so I go and do it myself.
  • I return to my work and can’t remember what stage I was up to on the list of graphics I was creating. I start again.
  • As it gets close to lunchtime, I realise the washing machine has finished its cycle and I want to get it outside quickly to catch the rare sunny weather here in West Yorkshire.
  • I nip out to do that while talking myself through some ideas I’ve had for content – brainstorming while doing housework, what a time-saver.
  • While out there I notice the dry laundry from yesterday hasn’t been taken upstairs yet. Oh, and the recycling bin hasn’t been brought back in after collection. Then I remember Harry’s fingernails need cutting. And the baby’s bottles need cleaning.
  • By the time I’ve done all that I’m running out of my allotted time for work and I find myself rushing to get the ‘absolutely-must-be-done-today’ jobs complete before lunch.
 
You never really get to completely focus on what you’re doing while the kids are around.

You feel rushed because you feel bad your partner is on his own with them, and that he needs to get his work done too.

By Tuesday you’re exhausted.

You’re literally on the go 24/7 (especially if, like me, have two kids who do not sleep well at night).

Even the weekend brings no relief, because, actually, it brings no kind of break from all of this.
 
Every working parent is a hero to me, even more so if you are parenting alone

We’re being the worker, the teacher, the coach, the entertainer (how does Mr Tumble stay that positive all the time?), the nurse, the chef, the social life and, not forgetting, the parent.

On top of all that, we are dealing with an incredibly stressful time where there is a constant barrage of worries:

What if we get ill?

What if this lockdown lasts for six months?

What will we do about Harry starting school?

What can I do to find more work?

What will Luke be asked to do for his work?

What about all those things we’re having to cancel?
 
Try to remember the positives.

If you’re reading this because you’re a working parent who’s finding these circumstances hard, please remember what a flipping awesome job you are doing.

I’d also like to point out some of the great things that are going on at the moment, that you might not have noticed under the exhaustion of day-to-day life:

How much better does it feel not having to battle through the rush hour commute?

How much more time are you getting with your kids every day?

How much more confident do you feel having more control over your workload?  

How much are you not missing all the pointless meeting you used to have to go to?

How much nicer has it been getting to know your neighbours a little better (from a distance)?

Those are just some of the positives working from home can bring you all year around.

​If you’ve enjoyed reading this article, please share it with your friends. Or tweet me and let me know how you are getting on with balancing work life and family life!



4 Comments
Mark link
4/18/2020 02:27:17 am

Interesting stuff, I don’t have kids so can’t relate in that respect, it love the fact you have shared your experiences, but I do see this as the future. As the chaos that this has torn around the world I think a lot of people and businesses will need to change their approaches. We can’t go back to the way we were and expect it not to happen again.

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Lauren
4/21/2020 06:22:04 am

I imagine working from home with kids is really tough! I work with kids normally and it's hard but trying to get stuff done at home must be pretty difficult.

Lauren | https://www.laurenyloves.co.uk/

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Diana link
4/25/2020 01:30:08 am

This is so true! It's reassuring to read that other parents' realities are also messy, interrupted and not picture-perfect.
Very important point too about these circumstances not being representative of 'normal' fexible working.
Thanks for this!

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Ann link
4/26/2020 12:22:01 am

I applaud you parents for juggling work, life, and parenting right now. I've been working part-time from home for the past year as a freelance writer, so being home all the time now hasn't been too much of a transition. I can't imagine doing this with kids though! Thank you for all this insight!

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    ​My name's Amy and I'm a Social Media Consultant with a two-year-old son, Harry. 

    This blog is all about how flexible working and part-time hours have made a difference to my life, I hope it will inspire others to follow suit - whether it be you or your employees who want to give it a try.

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